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Sorry Sucker!


 Joshua: "Mom, get me a sucker when you're at Home Depot."

Me: "Nope!  You have to be with me to get the sucker. "

Joshua: "Well, Dad buys me one when he goes without me. "

Me: "Sorry sucker. Not happening. "

He came along but thinks you're "better" than me😆

 I am so glad he has this memory of you.  It's exactly what you created.

Remember our conversation about this last summer?  You were going to Home Depot daily, sometimes multiple times in one day.  You always asked Joshua to go with you, to give me a break, but he never wanted to. He said: "Only if you buy me a sucker like mom does." 

You didn't like that he wanted a sucker to go and you didn't like that he wasn't allowing you to help me by taking him.

I encouraged you to take the bribe😆. 

I told you I buy him a sucker every time he goes with me because I know Home Depot is a boring store for a kid but when I go I need him to be patient while I'm shopping. Every time we go he asks for a sucker and every time, I say:

 "Absolutely you can have a sucker!"  

I make it fun for him so he WANTS to come with me. 

I don't see it as spoiling him, I make it a positive experience for both of us. 

I told you a $1 sucker is worth the time he spends with you when otherwise, he won't go. 

You considered my perspective and decided $1 is a good investment to make both me and joshua happy.  The next time you went to Home Depot I heard you call out to him:

"Hey Buddy, lets go to Home Depot and get a sucker!" 

He followed you out the door without hesitating. 

 You winked at me and from then on every time you went to Home Depot you bought him a sucker!  Even the times he wasn't with you!!!

I love that you were open minded about that.  

Your little investment paid off.  He will always remember you (and maybe a little bit of me) when he goes to Home Depot. 

Thanks for considering my sucker perspective.

 I started it but he remembers YOU for it. I’ll do my best to keep that alive for you and him Babe! 😘 


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